Posts Tagged ‘orphanage’

The time for the long-anticipated decision has come.  We, through our agents, contacted both TLC and Discovery about a show to “unveil” the decision with proceeds to go toward the program fees for the adoption.  We had some great ideas to fill a 30 minute show, building tension and anticipation.  We showed them power point presentations and how great we all were at acting.

But… they turned us down.  So all we have is this blog post to announce to the zillions of people following our journey toward adopting again.  Do you want me to go on like this for about 30 minutes so you can pretend it is on cable tv?  I thought so.

Watching out for her little brother

We have decided to adopt the children currently know as Marina and Mervie.  Marina is a 4 year-old girl, and Mervie is her 1 year-old (half?) brother.  I’m still trying to figure out how the names work there.  Her legal name is Micheline, but somehow that has morphed into Marina.

We are not sure which of their names we’ll keep, or what we will name them.  The naming efforts, after a hiatus, have resumed.  And we are making about as much headway as Republicans and Democrats these days.

Amie has mentioned the possibility of having a fund raiser to choose who goes to the DRC to pick up our new children.  Something like each vote is $5.  Perhaps it would provide 10% of the airfare necessary to travel there and back.  Then again…

Jadon is quite excited to have another brother and another sister.  She really wants a sister, somehow thinking that a sister will be more compliant than a brother to her wishes.  She’s old enough for the 2 of them to share a room.

Marina’s had a hard life, I’m sure.  So pray for her and her adjustment.  They have lived with their mother and grandmother.  It sounds like there has been no stability as far as men have been concerned.  But things reached the point that she is unable to care for her children properly. We are excited about what God can begin to do in them through His people.

The process isn’t done.  Now we wait again.  As noted above, one of us will travel around the new year to take care of the legal stuff on that end and bring the children home.  Like any pregnant couple, we have time to prepare rooms, have the bunk beds we bought off Craig’s List refinished etc.

On the other end, they should have enough food, love and care.  She will receive some lessons in elementary English to help ease her transition.  We’ll send a picture so she can learn who we are.  Pray for the stability of the region so everything happens in a timely fashion- no small order these days.


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There are a bunch of little things that don’t merit their own post, but are interesting.

First, the agency has now hired someone to teach English to the children at the orphanage.  I had asked about this a few months ago.  They wanted to do this, but didn’t have the resources yet.  There were also some more important items for them to address.  They got some donations and were able to move ahead.  This means that the older children will know at least some English before their adoption.  This should make the transition easier.

We are amending our homestudy to increase the ages of children we are interested in adopting.  Changes like that have helped us make that decision.  We were asked about our willingness to adopted a sibling group of 4.  As I thought about that just seemed to much for our circumstances.  We have the room in the house, but would need a larger van.  It would seriously increase the cost of flying ‘home’ each year, our insurance rates and food bill.  I didn’t want Amie to be responsible to get 6 kids to church each Sunday without me.  It just didn’t seem to be the right situation for us, but we trust there is a family right for them.

The agency is processing the paperwork for 10 other children at this time.  It has been held up as they had to send back to the DRC for additional paperwork.  You never know if the next CavKid(s) will be in that packet.

One of the young ladies at church will be having a bake sale to help raise awareness of international adoption and funds for our adoption.  It was a great idea.  If you happen to be in Tucson this Friday (the 13th), come to the Walmart Neighborhood Market at the corner of Oracle and Magee from 2-5.  She and her sister make some great baked goods!

Jillian Michaels, from The Biggest Loser, is in the process of adopting from the DRC.  We didn’t watch the show (the closest we come to reality TV is The Office and HGTV) but saw commercials.  I’m sure she’ll do more than yell at the kids.

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When I posted “#6” on my Facebook status last week, I bet a number of people thought I was referring to the number of losses the Red Sox had since coincidentally their losing streak went to 6 that same day.  No one asked what I meant.  Maybe they just chalked it up to my eccentricities.  But here is the lowdown.

We recently asked the adoption agency for our place in line (though I guess we might still be the last in line which gets me to thinking), we were informed our place was #6.  There are variables that exist in all of this.  Each of the 5 families in front of us will have different preferences (older kids, younger kids, only girls, etc.).  So, it is possible we may pass some of them (I think) since we have no expressed preferences for gender.

The orphanage has a far greater capacity than is currently being used.  But some government officials recently visited the facility and it looks like they may be giving the orphanage more referrals in the near future.  Most of the children there now are in the 3-5 year-old range.  Most people want younger children.  Which led me to ask the next question.

“Do you teach the children basic English?”  I wondered this for 2 reasons.  First, since the agency owns/runs the orphanage it would seem likely that all/most of the children would be coming to America if adopted.  2nd, even though our son seemed to understand English, his inability to communicate with us amplified the frustration on both sides of the equation.  If they taught the kids basic English, I’m be more likely to bump up the age limit for the kid(s) we adopt.

This is one of the things they want to do, but have been unable to implement thus far.  English-speakers are hard to find in the DRC  The more immediate priority, financially, is providing a vehicle for the use of the orphanage particularly the director.  This would make her life far easier regarding medical appointments, getting supplies etc.

So, if you like teaching ESL, and want to teach orphans in the Congo… let our agency know.  If you have money toward a vehicle for the orpahange … let our agency know.

We’d appreciate prayer as we work through the possibility of adopting one (or 2) of those 3-5 year-olds.  We want to be wise, though the transition will be difficult no matter what age the child is unless they are a newborn.

Here’s what I was thinking of … the late Ronnie James Dio from the mid-80’s.  The Last in Line.

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I was hoping to put a video by the agency up so people could see pictures of the orphange.  I’ll need some technical help getting it from wmv to a usable format for WordPress (YouTube, Vimeo, Google).

But actor and director (and Red Sox fan) Ben Affleck (who is married to the lovely Jennifer Garner) appeared before a congressional panel to discuss the problems in the Democratic Republic of the Congo and plead for U.S. intervention.

He proposed four steps for action, including:

–U.S. support for a comprehensive strategy to protect women and children;

–More U.S. funding for election monitors and other electoral structures;

–The appointment of a special U.S. envoy to the region; and,

–Developing a comprehensive approach to dealing with the issue of conflict over minerals and with armed groups, including rebels from neighboring countries, local militias and the Congolese military, that fight to profit from the mining.

What is important to me is whether or not the DRC wants help.  I know there are many problems that need to be addressed in the DRC.  But I don’t want this to be viewed as paternalism.  And frankly, our government is already spending too much money it does not have.  But at least Ben has spent the last few years making trips there investigating things instead of just reacting to a report or article.



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